All those years, while I was so busy putting out fires caused by others’ choices, all I wanted was for them to be responsible for themselves. I wanted them to care enough about themselves to make better choices for themselves. But I was the pot calling the kettle black.
Where was their example of setting healthy [...]

When setting personal boundaries, you have to decide what action you will take if the other person displays unacceptable behavior. To effectively decide, you have to own all your choices. This means giving up the victim role and getting rid of all the “have to”s in your vocabulary and thinking.
To see just how pervasive the [...]

One of the biggest misconceptions the people I’ve worked with have about setting boundaries is that it is just another name for manipulation. In fact, when I was first beginning to learn how to set personal boundaries, I, too, thought setting boundaries was about manipulation, making threats and issuing ultimatums.
It’s easy to see why I [...]

If you feel used all the time…you might have a problem with boundaries.
If you can’t say ‘no’ without feeling guilty…you might have a problem with boundaries.
If other people are driving you crazy…you might have a problem with boundaries.
If you have a hard time asking for what you want and need…you might have a problem with [...]

Clinging to the wreckage is not the same as saving yourself.
A really good friend shared this quote with me several months back and it has really stuck with me. It speaks volumes to me. What does it say to you?
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You’ve got an unruly dog who jumps on everyone who comes through your door, chews your shoes and can’t be outside without a leash unless you want to chase it all over the neighborhood. It just won’t listen or behave, so you decide to take it to obedience classes. Enough is enough, you’re thinking, and [...]

I found a great website today: WeAreWhatWeDo.org.
Who are they?
We’re not another charity. We’re not an institution. We Are What We Do is a movement. Our aim is inspire people to use their everyday actions to change the world. Whoever they are. And wherever they are. And that includes you.
It’s a simple but powerful equation: small [...]

Hope is a decision, a way of living your life, an expectation of and belief in the fulfillment of your dreams and desires. But hope without action will not bring you the results you’re after. So what can you do when you don’t know what to do next?
Daydream.
Yes, I’m serious.
Take a break. Close your eyes. [...]

If you lose hope, somehow you lose the vitality that keeps life moving, you lose that courage to be, that quality that helps you go on in spite of it all.
- Martin Luther King, Jr., “The Trumpet of Conscience”
I have been playing the Yes We Can song over and over since my sister sent me [...]

My sister sent me a link to a video today that I just couldn’t pass up sharing. It’s message is applicable to us as individuals striving to become ourselves and live authentic, meaningful lives, as much as it speaks to us as a nation.
www.YesWeCanSong.com
Yes We Can
It was a creed written into the founding documents that [...]