Pick One and Look at the Rest

leadimage_indecisionSometimes you find yourself stuck, not knowing what to do next or which way to go. You can analyze and research, play ‘what if’ until you’re blue in the face, but sometimes the answer just doesn’t come. So what do you do? How do you decide?

As my dad has always told me, “Just pick one and look at the rest.”

At first glance, this might appear to be merely the advice of an exasperated dad, but the more frequently I’ve followed this advice, the more value I find in it.

Sometimes the only thing required to get unstuck is action, any action. Not everything about our world is linear. Not everything can be traced back to a logical cause and effect. Sometimes, all we need to find our answer is to step – in any direction – off of dead center. Movement is the antidote to being stuck. Action is the answer, more often than not.

Where I believe we get hung up is in our requirement to ‘get it right the first time’. When you think about it, doesn’t that seem an inordinately ridiculous goal? Doesn’t it just suck the wind right out of your sails to think about having to do something ‘right’ in order to do it at all? Is it any wonder, then, that we can feel so stuck?

Will the world stop spinning if you make a mistake? Will the sky come crashing down if you don’t do it ‘right’ the first time? Better yet – what if the action you take, the one that doesn’t really ever pan out, is the action that was required to get you to the next decision – the one that REALLY makes a difference in your life? Doesn’t it make sense then, when all of the available choices appear to be equally insufficient, to pick one and look at the rest to get unstuck?

3 Comments

Tom Volkar / Delightful Work
October 3, 2009
at 8:06 am
corner

Excellent message! I like to say that any movement works. it works because after the action our perspective has changed and we can see options that we were once blind to.

“Not everything about our world is linear. Not everything can be traced back to a logical cause and effect.” Amen to this. Sometimes it’s about confidence, sometime it’s about intention and other times results are simply inexplicable to our human minds.
.-= Tom Volkar / Delightful Work´s last blog ..The True Calling Connection =-.

    SuzanneBHarris
    October 12, 2009
    at 2:02 am
    corner

    "…because after the action our perspective has changed…" Exactly! I won't tell you how long it took me to recognize that…but now that I do, l don't feel stuck near as often. What a relief.

prash
November 14, 2009
at 6:14 am
corner

Thanks for your article, it really helped me to solve my problems. I got really stuck don't know what to do next but after reading your article it changed my mind. I really thanks once again for this valuable article

My Blog Comment Policy

I encourage comments and really appreciate people taking the time to add to the discussion. I am blessed with a wonderful group of readers here. Thank you all!

I use dofollow and CommentLuv, so relevant comments are rewarded here. (Use your name, not keywords because people, not keywords, have discussions.)

It's fine to disagree with a post, but remember your manners while doing so. No bashing me or the other commenters here. Play fair or go away. Ok?

Ok.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

*

You may use these HTML tags and attributes: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <strike> <strong>

Spam protection by WP Captcha-Free

Testimonials

"I’ve been waiting for years for the right and perfect person to help me create a website that I would be proud of – and one that I could master. Finally, I was sent to Suzanne!"
Lisa Zimmerman
"The advice was extremely clear and “user-friendly” and at the end of the session I felt that I had graduated to a much higher level of understanding of a web presence."
Sara McIntosh
"Suzanne and I share the same no nonsense, down-to-earth approach when handling projects and her sense of humor helps lift me when I get frustrated in web land."
Christa Scalies