You Might Have a Problem with Boundaries If…
Feb 10th, 2008 | By Suzanne | Category: Accountability | |If you feel used all the time…you might have a problem with boundaries.
If you can’t say ‘no’ without feeling guilty…you might have a problem with boundaries.
If other people are driving you crazy…you might have a problem with boundaries.
If you have a hard time asking for what you want and need…you might have a problem with boundaries.
If you are putting more and more into your relationship and getting less and less in return…you might have a problem with boundaries.
If you feel it’s your responsibility to solve other people’s problems…you might have a problem with boundaries.
If people don’t treat you with respect…you might have a problem with boundaries.
If others are constantly taking advantage of you…you might have a problem with boundaries.
If you are feeling overwhelmed and drained by the people and situations in your life…you might have a problem with boundaries.
If you don’t know what you want or can’t make up your mind…you might have a problem with boundaries.
If you think you don’t deserve any better than what you are getting…you might have a problem with boundaries.
If you can’t express your feelings and opinions…you might have a problem with boundaries.
If you try to please everyone and make everyone happy all the time…you might have a problem with boundaries.
If you’re working harder and getting paid less…you might have a problem with boundaries.
If people run over you over and over again…you might have a problem with boundaries.
If you stay in relationships or situations long after you know you should get out…you might have a problem with boundaries.
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February 11th, 2008 10:37 am :
Great list! Hope you’re going to give us a hint as to how to get a handle on some of these issues. Growing up youngest in a big, dysfunctional family, some of these are just par for the course-and can create big problems for us in business. Thanks for pointing out that these are not just normal behaviors.
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February 11th, 2008 1:50 pm :
Thanks Suzanne, this is a great list for those what have questions about boundaries. Once they took the time to review these ideas they would have a clear idea whether they need to do some boundary work.
As a therapist for 30 plus years, I have seen many who need to explore self-love as a away to bring healing to dysfunctional boundary issues. Finding who we are and being ok with that helps clarify where we let people in and when were don’t.
Keep up the insight provoking work,
Joseph
Joseph Bernard, Ph.D.
www.ExploreLifeBlog.com
www.Peace-Together.com
February 11th, 2008 6:58 pm :
Mark - you bet! This week’s discussions will be about boundaries - how to set them, how to enforce them and why we need them to live the lives we really want to live. Boundaries, like Joseph said, are about self-love, and we’re definitely going to be exploring that!
Thanks for stopping by and participating today, I really value the feedback!
Warmly,
Suzanne
February 11th, 2008 7:02 pm :
Joseph,
Thank you for your comment. I agree - getting clear about who we are and accepting ourselves wholly and completely is how we move toward setting healthy boundaries that serve us. Please do come back often and share your experience and insights with us!
Warmly,
Suzanne
February 12th, 2008 2:51 pm :
Great list. I actually recognized a couple that will help me out. Thanks for posting this. Patricia