Sometimes you find yourself stuck, not knowing what to do next or which way to go. You can analyze and research, play ‘what if’ until you’re blue in the face, but sometimes the answer just doesn’t come. So what do you do? How do you decide?

When you find yourself in a dark place in life, your worst fears realized, your options seemingly gone - there is hope if you can realize that you are also in the best position - finally - to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

So, when you say you have reservations about something, you’re saying you’re waiting, right? Just like the restaurant, hotel and airline that has your reservation is now waiting on you.

So, you’re waiting. Waiting on what?

For every choice we make, there are consequences. That’s true for us, our kids, our spouses, our friends, our bosses, our employees - everyone. No one is immune. One of the toughest learning curves we face in life is dealing with consequences - ours and the ones those we care about create. Let me give you an example - and this is a pretty simple situation compared to many situations we face in life.

Would that we could do everything we do in life because we want to, not because we have to, huh? But I wonder - where are the ‘have to’ things coming from? As adults, who’s in charge of us, bossing us around, telling us what we ‘have to’ do?
No one.
Every day we make thousands of [...]

When setting personal boundaries, you have to decide what action you will take if the other person displays unacceptable behavior. To effectively decide, you have to own all your choices. This means giving up the victim role and getting rid of all the “have to”s in your vocabulary and thinking.
To see just how pervasive the [...]

Letting go of the outcome in any situation is easier said than done, for most of us. Let me be clear, though - letting go of the outcome does not relieve you of your responsibilities in life. Letting go of the outcome means that you do your part to the best of your ability, understanding [...]

One of the biggest misconceptions the people I’ve worked with have about setting boundaries is that it is just another name for manipulation. In fact, when I was first beginning to learn how to set personal boundaries, I, too, thought setting boundaries was about manipulation, making threats and issuing ultimatums.
It’s easy to see why I [...]

If you feel used all the time…you might have a problem with boundaries.
If you can’t say ‘no’ without feeling guilty…you might have a problem with boundaries.
If other people are driving you crazy…you might have a problem with boundaries.
If you have a hard time asking for what you want and need…you might have a problem with [...]

Hope is a decision, a way of living your life, an expectation of and belief in the fulfillment of your dreams and desires. But hope without action will not bring you the results you’re after. So what can you do when you don’t know what to do next?
Daydream.
Yes, I’m serious.
Take a break. Close your eyes. [...]