For every choice we make, there are consequences. That’s true for us, our kids, our spouses, our friends, our bosses, our employees - everyone. No one is immune. One of the toughest learning curves we face in life is dealing with consequences - ours and the ones those we care about create. Let me give you an example - and this is a pretty simple situation compared to many situations we face in life.

When setting personal boundaries, you have to decide what action you will take if the other person displays unacceptable behavior. To effectively decide, you have to own all your choices. This means giving up the victim role and getting rid of all the “have to”s in your vocabulary and thinking.
To see just how pervasive the [...]

One of the biggest misconceptions the people I’ve worked with have about setting boundaries is that it is just another name for manipulation. In fact, when I was first beginning to learn how to set personal boundaries, I, too, thought setting boundaries was about manipulation, making threats and issuing ultimatums.
It’s easy to see why I [...]