They say time heals all wounds, but I disagree. I know too many people still hung up on the past and miserable for that to be true. I think what heals the wounds is letting go of wishing things had turned out differently and accepting what is.
So how do you let go of wishing things [...]

“She was becoming herself and daily casting aside that fictitious self which we assume like a garment with which to appear before the world.”
— Kate Chopin
In more than one conversation this week, I found myself saying, “You’re just becoming yourself, that’s all. And change, of any kind, tends to make us nervous, makes us question [...]

How many times have you caught yourself saying or thinking, “I can’t help it. That’s just the way I am.” Probably a lot, right?
On the one hand, it’s good to know ourselves well. Really good. But on the other hand, too often we let “that’s just the way I am” become an excuse for not [...]

Basically, achieving goals comes down to two things:

Desire
Belief

Fear, uncertainty or doubt creeps into either or both of those things? Forget it - you’re not going to achieve that goal. Period. Harsh, I know - but true.
Think about it. Take a goal you REALLY, REALLY want to achieve. I mean you want it so bad [...]

“So, whatever you want to do, just do it….Making a damn fool of yourself is absolutely essential.”
– Gloria Steinem
How often does appearing to be a complete fool keep us from even trying? Isn’t it just a bit ridiculous to expect perfection at the outset? Yet we do that, don’t we - we hold back because [...]

Each of us has a list of events or circumstances for which we’ve predetermined our responses, so sure that no matter the situation, we’ll follow through and protect the lines we’ve pre-drawn in the sand.
For each of us, there is another list, created from the first, of said events and circumstances which life has dropped [...]

If I’ve made a recurring mistake in relationships over the course of my life, it has been trying to “fix” other people. Interestingly - to “fix” something implies that it was broken before you got hold of it - and who decides what “broken” is?
Of course, I did not consciously enter into these relationships with [...]

I honestly don’t remember much about the movie carrying this post’s title, other than it was a good movie and somehow an absence of malice meant a crime was not committed. Maybe I’ll rent it and watch it again all these years later, and find even more correlation between it and what I’m feeling today.
But [...]

One of the best things about being in business for yourself is the ability to choose the people with and for whom you work. You can say, “No, thank you” to the PITAs (Pains In The Ass) of the world. Some people, no matter how much money they flash in your face, are just not [...]

Somethings just are what they are, the way they are, and that’s just it…can’t change it. Wanting them to be different is not going to do anything but frustrate you.
Resistance to what is amplifies overwhelm, as well…and when you’re in overwhelm, why make it worse?
If you’re frustrated and overwhelmed, doesn’t it make sense to take [...]